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Anxiety, Clock is Ticking & Ready to Wed?! LADIES EDITION Heart to Heart

Photo credit: Detroit Free Press: Say Yes to the Dress

     Hey Ladies! Happy belated Valentine's Day 😗I hope you were at peace, if not, then I want to encourage you that you are not alone, sis! Today, my sis in Christ, Elder Terri Bard put on an event at David's Bridal in Novi where if you were single, engaged, talking to someone, in a relationship or even situationship lol, to try on wedding dresses. And guess what? Some of us walked out with a payment on a dress or paid it in full!!! GOD IS AMAZING! I know it sounds crazy to be single and put a payment on a dress with no prospects but God is faithful! Some of us knew what God promised to us and the name of the event was "Yes to the Dress!! Prep for the Promise! We had such a great time and I'm so thankful for Terri's obedience. But there were moments that were trying to spoil our day and consultants that did not catch our vision but one lady named Lynn did.  Lynn is a minister who recently got married in November and her vibe was everything! So if you go to David's Bridal in Novi, book her!! She is led by the Holy Spirit and she will be patient to help you find the RIGHT dress! Such a divine day with divine people! 

     I remember talking to a guy recently and he asked me, do I think about my clock ticking and do I have an age where I want to be married and have children by? And at that time, I was okay, I'm like I'm 26, I'm still young! BUT then it hit me like I'm about to 27 (if you are almost 40 do not roll your eyes while reading this lol). Anxiety and negative thoughts started to kick in like "you will be 30 soon" then "30 soon turns into 40". And then the doubt started to come like "you won't get all that you asked God for", the enemy went into overthrow and told me I wasn't getting married, there are no good men that will stay faithful in a marriage and so much more. One of the ladies earlier today declared she was getting married this year and just talked about how she was so tired of these men that won't commit or that just want to have sex with you. And I'm like I get it. I've been single for almost 8 years and just recently decided to try dating and see what's out there and it has not been a bad experience at all. But just have not found the ONE to say this is it and hear the Holy Spirit say, "that's him" with peace in my heart. But I thought of the lady who declared she was getting married today, and I'm like, wow that is great faith! Where is my faith?

     So I'm trying on my wedding dress and it felt unreal. Like it felt weird and awkward too because I'm like Lord, I don't even have a man. Then I thought about all the times I idolized marriage and glamorized it. I thought about am I really ready for the "hard work" people talk about that comes with marriage. Then I thought about all the times I fell short of the glory of God when it comes to sin and felt like I don't even deserve to be a bride one day. I was fighting so many negative thoughts all while trying on a simple but beautiful wedding dress. Questions came up like, am I ready to be a wife and the commitment and the responsibility that comes with it or do I just want a long term boyfriend and some sex? I'm just keeping it real. All these thoughts coming in just by being in a bridal store and hearing the bell ring, screams, and the bride saying "YES TO THE DRESS"! And what makes it worse is that I am so indecisive but that's another blog post for another day.

Although I had negative thoughts and anxiety, the Lord always whispers His scriptures in my heart and spirit:

Matthew 6:33 New International Version (NIV)

33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

Psalm 37:4 New International Version (NIV)

4 Take delight in the Lord,
    and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Song of Solomon 8:4
NLT
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.

Philippians 4:6 New International Version (NIV)
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

These scriptures encouraged my heart and I want to encourage you sis, that if marriage be in God's plan for your life, it will happen. You don't have to believe the lies that the enemy feeds you. You can have faith. You can get the desires of your heart. You can have the marriage you dreamt of. YOU CAN, SIS! AND YOU WILL! Hey, I'm speaking in faith, touching and agreeing with you. Less focus on the clock and more time on GOD. He has your back! He won't fail you! 



Love you!
Sheree B
xoxoxo


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